Are you always feeling worked up and as if no one knows how you feel? Often times I feel like I’m the only one going through the most. But most times, people post the highlights of their lives & what they feel is most fun… traveling, good family matters, job promotions. You truly never know what someone may be facing on the other side of that phone screen (or computer screen). I say all that to say, everyone has problems. I’ve come up with a list of 7 things to help myself deal with life day to day, and hopefully it’ll do something for you as well.
- Stop feeling sorry for yourself.
This is probably one of the most important things you could ever do. Again, everyone has a battle. You know the saying “There’s always someone who has it worse.” And it’s true. But just because someone has it worse doesn’t mean you don’t have the right to be upset about your own situation. It’s okay to be upset about it, but don’t indulge in self-pity. You have the power to change your circumstances, and while it won’t happen overnight, they’re going to change.
- Focus on your life and not everyone else’s.
Social media has its positive and negative influence. We rely on it a lot for our news today, but it’s easy to get wrapped up into other people’s lives — celebrities and locals alike. Don’t have a fear of missing out, though. Step away from the Gram. And focus on you and your development.
- Do EVERYTHING you want — if not simultaneously, sequentially.
Ok, so there really aren’t enough hours in the day to do everything you could possibly want to do. Don’t overwhelm yourself knowing you can’t take care of them all. Whether it’s simple tasks or lifelong goals, understand you CAN complete all of them. If you can’t do them at the same time, perhaps map out how you could accomplish one now and eventually accomplish the other. Oh, and take advantage of any free time — maybe a lunch break at work or time in between classes.
- Do it today. Right now. Not tomorrow and not next week.
There are 2 different ways you can procrastinate. One way is for a set deadline, and that’s knowing you can wait the week, day, or hour before to complete a task to meet deadline requirements. Hey, at least you know it’s going to get done right? But the other way is for no deadline, which is much harder to avoid. You know you need to get healthy but you don’t have to do it by tomorrow. You could even start next year since we’re already almost halfway through 2017, right? No. Don’t procrastinate. Just start now before you never start.
- Read, write, draw. Every damn day.
This one is particularly for me lol. But if you have a hobby or craft you’re trying to perfect or a position in which you’re trying to excel, you need to practice at it every day. That’s going to make you stand out from the mass. Even if you only have 15 minutes to spare for it, between work & taking care of your kids, do those 15 minutes. Eventually it will develop into a habit, and perhaps you may even learn how to extend the time you put into it.
- Don’t overwork yourself. Debt doesn’t disappear.
Well, I’d like to think that debt does disappear, but that’s just not the case. I can’t count how many times I’ve worked doubles or picked up extra hours to pay off a debt and save, just to turn around and pick up another debt. Maybe something as simple as a ticket. Don’t get me wrong… working hard is important but don’t overwork yourself. Use spare time for something you enjoy or for self-development. I decided that working my 40 hours this week is just going to have to cut it. Nothing more.
- Get organized. Make a plan. Stick to it.
My plan is to start time blocking, which is basically setting time aside each day to ensure you complete a task in an allotted time. If you know you don’t wake up or get off work the same time every day, try sectioning of your time by increments instead of the actual time (ex: 1 hour for exercise vs. 9 a.m. – 10 a.m. for exercise). Hold yourself accountable.
Everything takes time. Trust in the glow up while you’re adulting, and stress less.